Are
You Ready to Marry?
There are so many sentiments that lead up to "I
do." And there should be. Marriage is truly wonderful… challenging at times, but
definitely worthwhile. But, before you plunge into the bliss and excitement of marriage,
take some time off and be true to yourself, and ask yourself… are you ready to marry?
Our intention is not to dampen your spirits, but to help you better in your
decision-making. Take a look at some of the issues we have listed down and look at your
situation.
Relationship
- You trust each other and confide in each other.
- You enjoy spending time together, and doing things together.
- You run to each other in times of happiness and sadness.
- You are supportive of each others decisions - most of the
time.
- You share the same dreams, goals and expectations.
- You are able to resolve arguments to a mutual agreement.
- You listen, understand, respect and admire each other.
- You are able to tolerate each others bad traits.
Sex
- You are sexually compatible, and fulfil each others sexual
needs.
- You are comfortable giving and taking sexual suggestions and
requests.
- You are able to accept each others past sexual relationships.
- You are able to control your desire for another person.
Finance
- You are aware of each other's assets, income and debts.
- You have discussed how you will merge your finances and assets
once you get married, and you are comfortable with the plan.
- You have discussed how you will pay for the household
expenses, car, loans, etc. once you get married, and you are comfortable with the plan.
Family
- You have discussed how to spend time with family (parents and
parents-in-law) during festive seasons e.g. Hari Raya, Chinese New Year, Deepavali and
Christmas.
- You have discussed to what extent each other's family will
play a role in your future family's life.
- You have discussed about family planning, and how you want to
bring up your children (if any).
- You have similar religious beliefs, or are comfortable with
each others beliefs.
- You have discussed of how you are going to support and take
care of your parents or parent-in-law, if the need arises.
If most of these issues are covered and agreed, you are ready
for married life. If the majority issues have not been agreed yet, then, our best advice
is to work on the issues first before you walk down the aisle. It's definitely worthwhile.
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