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Unfortunately, it is hard to see clearly
in the early stages. Sexual hunger draws you to each other and colors
the way you see yourselves together. It blinds you to the thousands of
little things by which the relationship eventually survives or fails.
You need to find a way to see beyond the initial overwhelming sexual
fascination. Some people choose to involve themselves sexually and
ride out the most heated period of sexual attraction in order to see
what is on the other side.
This can work, but it can also leave a trail of wounded hearts. Others
deny the sexual altogether in an attempt to get to know each other
apart from their sexuality. But they cannot see clearly, because the
presence of unfulfilled sexual desire looms so large that it keeps
them from having any normal perception of what life would be like
together.
The truly lucky people are the ones who manage to become long-time
friends before they realize they are attracted to each other. They get
to know each other's laughs, passions, sadness, and fears. They see
each other at their worst and at their best.
They share time together before they get swept up into the entangling
intimacy of sexuality. This is the ideal, but not often possible as
regard to culture and religion plus moral obligations. If you fall
under the spell of your sexual attraction immediately, you need to
look beyond it for other keys to compatibility.
One of these is laughter. Laughter tells you how much you will enjoy
each other's company over the long term. If your laughter together is
good and healthy, and not at the expense of others, then you have a
healthy relationship to the world. Laughter is the child of surprise.
If you can make each other laugh, you can always surprise each other.
And if you can surprise each other, you can always keep the world
around you new.
Beware of relationship in which there is no laughter. Even the most
intimate relationships based only on seriousness have a tendency to
turn sour. Over time, sharing a common serious viewpoint on the world
tends to turn you against those who did not share the same viewpoint,
and your relationship can become based on being critical together.
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