| He wants a wife, you want to be a bride
Maybe he doesn't realise it or maybe he really just want you to be happy.
Before you read on, please excuse us for generalising a little here. We are assuming that
most grooms to be are not too bothered with the nitty-gritty of planning a wedding. Maybe
a push and a shove here may get him to look at some wedding bands and honey moon packages
but anything beyond that he just wouldn't understand why is it that important. For
example, the colour of the table cloth during the wedding banquet, what gown you would
change into and how many during the wedding dinner, etc... To you, you wonder where has
the man who proposed to you went. Suddenly, he became this uncooperative and angry guy
every time you need his opinion.
Please spare a thought for him. Remember, he may be totally unprepared for this when he
proposed. You may have imagined the white gown you would wear since you were seven years
old! But for him, all he imagined was kids he can impart his taekwondo skills. You want to
be a bride but he wants a wife. He just doesn't realise that to get a wife he needs a
bride first. That creates a lot of dissonance for him. He cannot express it and you don't
understand why he behaving like that. The next time he frowns when you ask for an opinion
in one of the millions of trips you take to choose your bridal shoes because you cannot
decide which shade of green fits your cheongsam colour better tell him this -
"Darling (or any terms of endearment you use), it's a package deal - you help to
decide (item here) first, then we can have the (number of kids he wants here) kids you
always wanted." :) |
